In “How We Love Now” I talk about the difference between care-giving and care-getting, by which I mean the necessity of watching out for one’s own needs even if it means asking for help (and we all know how hard that is!).

As a model for one kind of care-getting I describe the Caring Collaborative created by The Transition Network (TTN).

“A new study that finds testosterone declines in proportion to nurturing fatherhood is mind-blowing in many ways that are meaningful for family life and our understanding of fatherhood.

I was afraid that the findings would be used against nurturing men, taunting them with loss of virility and status along with “loss” of testosterone, so I hope you will all share this supportive analysis with all those women and men who are trying so hard to reinvent parenting on kinder, gentler terms.

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“Postmenopausal Zest is fueling a new revolution in the generation that redefined womanhood. Love on the far side of fifty will never be the same!”

“It’s still rare to read anything this thoughtful about our age group. Especially about care-giving at our age. And care-getting. None of us is too good at that yet. How great to have Suzanne Braun Levine there guiding us as we go along.”

“HOW WE LOVE NOW is an immense Aha! of understanding. Because we’ve been punishing love and sex that aren’t linked to having children, we’ve downplayed the pleasures of love and sex after childbearing years are over. Suzanne Braun Levine breaks this barrier.”

“Discussions of “love” in literature and social science focus almost exclusively on first loves and infatuation. Suzanne Braun Levine looks at what happens to love in the second half of life. It is nothing like the stereotypes!”

”The metaphor I prefer is Suzanne Braun Levine’s ‘Fertile Void’, a space of ‘unremitting unknowingness’ …It is here in the tendrils of the fertile void that something new can begin to sprout — if you surrender to it and don’t numb yourself with busyness.”

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By Suzanne Braun Levine

I have always hoped that one day I would see someone reading one of my books on the subway. In the fantasy I go over and ask them how they like the book. They say “I love it!” and I say “I wrote it!”

That hasn’t happened yet, but it would be the peak experience in the progression of my book from the privacy of my own manuscript out into the world. Now, I am very proud of what I have written; I do want people to read it – and, needless to say, love it. But I know that won’t happen unless I put myself “out there” too. …