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My Post-Fifty Posse

We are five former Ms. magazine colleagues who have been having dinner together once a month for over 20 years. We like to try new places, which is a good thing, since I am not sure we would be welcome back to a restaurant after a visit. We generally sit there for three or four hours, order an assortment of appetizers, laugh uproariously — and pay with five credit cards!

Each brings her own kind of support, encouragement, empathy and humor to the table. We tease each other about the very traits we cherish. There is the Do-Gooder; the Fierce One; the Peacemaker; the Pragmatic Midwesterner and me (“the Terminally Modest One,” according to the Fierce One, whom I consulted). Collectively we are more than the sum of our parts.

The thing about all of these different women is that I feel safe with each of them, and they all make me laugh! We are our best selves together and our most vulnerable selves too.

A lot of women will say to me their friendships are the most
important relationships of their lives.

You know who your girlfriends are. I call them a “circle of trust,” and as we move past 50 we count on them more than ever.

The reasons we trust them and love them just keep multiplying.

  • They are fun to be with. So much so, that they are often our first choice to celebrate important milestones with — like a 50th birthday or a new job.
  • They root for us and they put up with us.
  • They stand up for us and they stand by us.
  • They listen sympathetically when we need to vent.
  • They know when we are hurt or angry and how to patch things up.
  • They make us laugh, and keep us sane.

This book is a celebration and reaffirmation of what women in tribal villages and coffee shops, quilting bees and book clubs and on the frontlines of feminism have known instinctively: We live better, longer, healthier and happier lives when we are linked with other women in a circle of trust.

Visit Huff/Post50 to see more of this blog post. It has a slide show celebrating my girlfriends, five of my favorite movies: The First Wives Club, It’s Complicated, Thelma and Louise, 9 to 5 and Beaches – including videos. Plus, well-known quotes on friendship from: Simone De Beauvoir, Edna Buchanan, Rebecca West, Erica Jong, Gloria Steinem and Helen Keller.

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*Note: This was originally posted on April 23, 2013 on Huff/Post50.

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