Join The New York City Chapter of The Transition Network for an evening with Suzanne Braun Levine sharing her groundbreaking, funny, poignant stories, interviews and research on the many ways women are finding love, and redefining their relationships in Second Adulthood.”

Her new book, How We Love Now, is “the third chapter” in her ongoing conversation with women over 50.

Save the Date! An inspiring evening awaits!

“Reinventing Love in Second Adulthood with Suzanne Braun Levine”

Thursday, February 16, 2012
Time: 5:45 to 8:00 PM
Location: Community Church of New York – 40 East 35th Street (bet. Madison and Park)
Email: rsvp@thetransitionnetwork.org

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The New York City Chapter has members from all 5 boroughs as well as some of the close areas of northern New Jersey and Westchester Country.  TTN NYC is the largest chapter with more than 550 members.

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For more information about the NYC Chapter, please contact us at NYCChapter@thetransitionnetwork.org.

The chapter’s vitality is reflected in the opportunities available to members to make new connections, learn, grow and enjoy this stage in our lives. 

Monthly meetings are on the Third Thursday when TTN women gather to socialize, welcome new members, and find out what’s happening in the chapter.  There are also special events and peer groups to join.

THE TRANSITION NETWORK (TTN) is an inclusive community of professional women, 50 and forward whose changing life situations lead them to seek new connections, resources, and opportunities. For additional information, see: www.thetransitionnetwork.org

By Cyma Shapiro, founder
MotheringintheMiddle.com

“You’re Not Who You were Only Older,”
Suzanne Braun Levine

I haven’t written a book review for Mothering, yet, since I believe our readers are a widely diverse group of women representing many ages, interests and ideologies. So, when I received How We Love Now, I wasn’t sure what I would do with it, other than read it.

Nearly four pages into the book, I wrote Suzanne’s dear friend, Karin, to thank her for this wonderful gift. Likewise, I hope my writing will peak your interest enough that you will buy this book.

Like Christiane Northrup’s The Wisdom of Menopause, Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson and Marilyn Kentz’s Not Your Mothers Midlife, Katrina Kenison’s Gift of An Ordinary Day and Mothers; Doreen Nagle’s But I Don’t Feel Too Old to Be a Mommy, Levine’s How We Love Now should sit on your shelf as a beloved old friend – there when you need it, available to hold, and ready to provide support and answers for your every need. In fact, some of these books should be a friend for life. How We Love Now is my new BFF.

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Cyma Shapiro is the writer and creator of NURTURE: Stories of New Midlife Mothers (www.MidlifeMothers.org) dedicated to promoting the lives of women choosing motherhood over 40 and a traveling art gallery show. The Mothering in the Middle blog for new midlife mothers –  www.MotheringintheMiddle.com – intersperses daily experiences with thoughtful commentary and essays and occasionally featuring guest writers. She is currently working on a number of creative projects, including an anthology for and by midlife mothers: NURTURE: Stories of New Midlife Mothers. 

It seems self-evident that generations can reinforce each other – by sharing the stories of their lives, by working together, and by living together in communities that are responsive to the needs of citizens of all ages. But those communities are too few and far between.

A national organization called generations united™ — supported by the Met Life Foundation — wants to find five of those special communities and honor them for being “on the cutting edge of intergenerational planning and living.”

Founded in 1986, the organization is a catalyst for change and works in collaboration with 100 national, state and local groups representing 70 million Americans. Their mission is “improving the lives of children, youth and older adults through intergenerational collaboration, public policies, and programs.” It is the only national membership organization “building bridges between generations.”

Check out the Awards Announcement [Deadline for Applications: January 31, 2012] and the wonderful profiles of multigenerational families on their site at “Donna’s Blog.”

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My new book How We Love Now is out this week.

The date was chosen because in publishing January is “self-improvement month.” The thinking is that at the start of the New Year we want to repent for all the guilty pleasures we indulged in over the holidays. Which is also why we make resolutions — to become better than we are. Oy, the guilt.

But Second Adulthood is about shedding that kind of guilt, along with many other emotional and psychological burdens that get in the way of inventing the rest of our lives. So I am proposing a new kind of resolution, a guilt-free and empowering resolving of unnecessary conflicts and contradictions that freeze us in place…

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This has been quite a month!

First of all, I finally held in my hands a copy of my new book How We Love Now; it has been eighteen months since I finished it, and at last it is real. The scary part is that it will soon be in the hands of actual readers, and while I am anxious to hear if it resonates with other women, I am less anxious to hear if it doesn’t, which will undoubtedly happen.

More good news in connection with the book is that I have been invited to speak about it by several of The Transition Network (TTN) chapters around the country starting in San Francisco (where my talk is also sponsored by Civic Ventures and Coming of Age: Bay Area). When I began writing about Second Adulthood just after the turn of the century (I love the sound of that!), one of my first stops was a TTN meeting. The organization was just getting started, and the energy and vision of its founders, Charlotte Frank and Christine Millen contributed greatly to my understanding of what was going on with women. Under the current Executive Director Betsy Werley, TTN has gone national. There are now fourteen chapters and I look forward to meeting members all over the country.

Another big deal this month was an invitation to speak at TEDxWomen, as part of a conversation entitled “Rebirth” which was livestreamed to a hundred locations around the world and to millions over the Internet. Jane Fonda, whose wonderful new book is called PRIME TIME: Making the Most of All of Your Life, put together the panel which included: Laura Carstensen, founder of the Stanford Center on Longevity, who reported on her studies of happiness and aging. She has found that people (both men and women) in their fifties and sixties are much happier overall than people in their thirties and forties. I certainly am.

I talked about The Fertile Void and got great feedback, including a mention from Rosie O’Donnell (who – true to form – liked that I described the prelude to the Fertile Void as “the fuck-you fifties”) in an interview on Huffington Post, where, coincidentally, I am now blogging regularly.

I also spent a few days in San Francisco at the Civic Ventures Summit, where the Encore Movement really established roots among the many activists for positive aging who were there. Founder Marc Freedman is dedicated to using the organization to galvanize activists to work toward changing societal assumptions and individual experiences of work and life after fifty. We were all inspired by the five winners of the Purpose Prize – for social entrepreneurs over 50 – who told their stories.

And Ms. – my true alma mater – turns 40 in 2012, and is still going strong under the ownership of the Feminist Majority Foundation. The seventeen years I spent there truly changed my life; for one thing, it was there that I began to explore – personally and professionally – the issues that still matter to the women I write about. Stanford University is sponsoring a panel discussion about the magazine, where I will join the current editor Katherine Spillar, feminist bloggers, and former editors on January 26 to reminisce and look forward.

The spirit of Ms. lives on in our lives, in the magazine itself, and – in my opinion – in the Occupy Movement, which has taken over the country. Check out the amazing (though long) video, narrated by a song about democracy written and performed by Leonard Cohen.

Here’s to a great year for all of us – and democracy too!

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The TEDxWomen event – Resilience, Relationships, ReBirth, ReImagine – on December 1, 2011 was the FIRST bicoastal, global TEDx event in history!

I was thrilled to be a part of this energizing, awe-inspiring day.

The 2011 TEDxWomen event brought together an exhilarating array of speakers – of all ages – in Los Angeles and New York. The live events at the Paley Center in the two cities were part of “a genuinely global, groundbreaking community.” We were joined by women and men gathered at over 100 events on every continent and in every time zone. Pat Mitchell, President and CEO, and the Paley Center for Media team of organizers were amazing. Congratulations to them all.

The videos from our session and all others are available on the TEDxWomen site. Just click on the name of a speaker in the Video section.

I participated in Jane Fonda’s session on “ReBirth.” Click here to take a look at my video and please leave your Comment.

TEDxWomen…The Conversation Continues.

Enjoy!

I joined the Board of Civic Ventures in 2009, and one of the most inspiring elements of their mission is the discovery and celebration of outstanding social entrepreneurs in the Encore stage of life. The winners of the Purpose Prize have been selected from hundreds of nominees, and having had the honor of being one of the judges, I can tell you that the choices were tough to make; there were many resourceful and courageous candidates for this year’s prizes.

The Purpose Prize is the nation’s only large-scale investment in people over 60 who are combining their passion and experience for social good. Sherry Lansing, CEO, The Lansing Foundation and Chair, Purpose Prize panel of judges has said, that: “The Purpose Prize isn’t a lifetime achievement award. It’s an investment in what these encore innovators – all over 60 – will do next.”

Meet the 2011 Winners of the Purpose Prize – five people who will receive $100,000 each – for improving their communities and the world. Watch their videos here…

Jenny Bowen

Winner of the Purpose Prize for Intergenerational Innovation, sponsored by AARP – Bowen is uplifting the lives of thousands of Chinese orphans

Randal Charlton

Charlton promotes entrepreneurship in Detroit as a means to create jobs and revitalize the struggling city.

Nancy Sanford Hughes

Hughes helps save people in the developing world from catastrophic injury, even death, by replacing the traditional open cooking fire with an efficient stove.

Wajiru Kamau

Kamau helps African immigrants – especially teenagers – adjust to a vastly different life in the United States.

Edward Mazria

Mazria is driving the building sector toward dramatically reducing energy consumption and greenhouse gas emissions.

To learn more about Encore Careers, visit: www.encore.org.

Thanksgiving is my absolute favorite holiday of the year – no gifts to worry about, the chance to collect people you love from all corners of your life, and the best food ever!

This year, while the leftovers are still tasty, there is yet another event I am looking forward to: I have been invited by Jane Fonda to join a panel she is leading at the TEDxWomen at a one-day bicoastal event on December 1 at the Paley Media Center in New York, + Los Angeles.

I will be joining Jane, Mary Catherine Bateson and my friend Laura Carstensen to explore the subject of “Re-Birth.” I will focus on the importance of what I have called ‘The Fertile Void’ – “The fruits of ‘second adulthood’” – which I described in my book Inventing the Rest of Our Lives: Women in Second Adulthood.

The event is a continuation of an ongoing TEDxWomen conversation about “how women and girls are re-shaping the future.”

I hope you will be able to join us at an event in your community.

To locate a TEDxWOMEN Event near you, click here…

To find out more about TEDxWomen [x=independently organized TED event],
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I am happy to report that I am now blogging on Huff/Post50. My first post is up today – “We Still Undress in the Dark, But the Sex Is Great!”

I am delighted to have this opportunity to join a busy and thought-provoking on-line outpost of the ongoing conversation about women in Second Adulthood that began with my first book Inventing The Rest of Our Lives: Women in Second Adulthood back in 204. 50 Is the New Fifty: 10 Life Lessons for Women in Second Adulthood (2008) distilled some of the wisdom that we are accumulating about this life experience.

My next book – How We Love Now: Sex and the New Intimacy in Second Adulthood – continues the conversation…

Take a look at Huff/Post50 and share your Comments there!

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I was interviewed recently for an article about the early days of Ms. magazine, which is about to be forty years old. Soon after that I was interviewed for an article about Our Bodies, Our Selves which was first published around the same time. When thinking about those days and looking at some photographs, my first thought is How Young We Were! And my second is How Brave We Were! Now I have another thought: How Lucky We Were! to be there.

The anniversaries of other empowering moments from the early days of the women’s movement are accumulating. They range across the spectrum from entertainment to sports, to health to legislation to mind-opening books that went where women were not supposed to go. It is amazing to look back four decades – one of the mixed blessings of Second Adulthood – but when the events are as momentous as the emergence of a movement, it is also humbling.

I started working on Ms. with the first monthly issue – Wonder Woman was on the cover. I was pretty up tight in those days; I wore a pink silk shirt and pink pencil skirt to work the first day. Over the seventeen years I was there, I learned a bit about casual dressing and a lot about women and about myself. I would not be the person I am today had I not gotten that job. And I certainly wouldn’t have had the expertise to draw on when I started writing about Second Adulthood.

Ms. reported on the breakthroughs – both personal and political – and staffers participated in many. My responsibilities kept me in the office making editorial decisions for each issue and working with a multitude of experienced and first-time published writers.  Keeping the magazine on schedule was not always an easy job with so many editors and writers traveling to demonstrations, events and fundraisers.

In 1981 I took on an additional project (where did I get the chutzpah?); I produced a documentary history of a century of brave women – an hour-long Ms. Special for HBO called “She’s Nobody’s Baby: American Women in the Twentieth Century.” It won a Peabody Award, the first of many for HBO. A recent biography of Gloria Steinem, also on HBO, highlighted the early days of the magazine (how young we look!) That it was produced by the same ceiling-shattering woman executive, Sheila Nevins, is a wonderful touch of continuity.

Later milestones include Anita Hill’s testimony at the Clarence Thomas confirmation hearings. She showed amazing courage by speaking truth to power, and although she lost the battle (he was confirmed), she won the war for recognition of sexual harassment at work. Next week her legacy will be the subject of a conference called “Sex, Power and Speaking Truth: Anita Hill 20 Years Later.” One of the conveners is a Ms. colleague, Letty Cottin Pogrebin, who like many of the brave women who led the movement is still on the frontlines of change.

Those hearings bring back a personal story. Because of my connection with Ms. I was invited to be one of several commentators in the continuing coverage with Peter Jennings. I don’t remember what else I said, but I do remember I got a lot of points for a wry observation I made about the fact that people across the country were gathered around their TVs in offices and public places. “Well, one thing is for sure; there is a lot less sexual harassment going on at this moment.”
Humor – often black humor like that – was a vital ingredient in the Ms. experience.

Writers Virginia Kerr and Lisa Wohl and editors Suzanne Levine and Marcia Gillespie at the book celebration for Letters to Ms. 1972-1987, (edited by Mary Thom,1987, Henry Holt). Photo: Debbie Millman.

I don’t think any of us could have done what we did without the laughter we shared. One of my favorite Ms. covers was an illustration of a man and a woman [find it below]:

Q. [Male] “Do You Know The Women’s Movement Has No Sense
Of Humor?” says his balloon.

A. [Female] “No! But Hum A Few Bars And I’ll Fake It!” says hers.

Photos: INSIDE Ms.: 25 Years of the Magazine and the Feminist Movement, by Mary Thom (Henry Holt, 1997)